I am a cuckold husband not the cuckold’s wife, so my answer only comes from what my wife told me and is therefore only partial. But I am going to offer a quite special view (at least I think it’s quite special) about how a wife might feel about her cuckold husband.
More than once, my wife said that she always has a “dream boy” in her mind. It’s kinda like a wet daydream that has been with her since her early teenage. That is, she has kept fantasizing such a boy/man for almost 30 years. This is not exactly me. For example, my penis should be categorized as small not average. Also I am 5 years younger than her, a fact that she did not foresee when she started this daydream. But my wife thinks that I am, as a cuckold husband and as just who I am, indeed fulfilling this role in her dream and actually doing better because I do more (of course, real life is more complex than a fantasy land where there is no dishes, laundry, and bills). So that’s what SHE said (I summarized and organized):
This boy is definitely my best friend ever. I love him more than anyone. He has been growing up with me and now he is a grown man. We share a lot of common interests: academic areas, red wine, arts, classic music and jazz, figure skating, fashion, food from various cultures….We also explore some crazy things together, such as weed (well, crazy enough for our hometown in Asia) and men’s chastity. He knows all my secrets, even my dirtiest desires and experiences, but he would never judge me or tell my parents (when I was young). Sometimes he is like my “male girl friend” because I told him about every boy and every man that I am romantically or sexually interested in. I describe to him in details, like how I am turned on by a certain guy’s butt, chest, and how I imagine the guy’s oral skill and penis. I told my dream boy that I imagine the hot guy’s penis is big because I love it big, and the dream boy is excited with me even though his is just average. After my first kiss with a super hot guy, I can’t wait to tell my dream boy about it. I then share all my sexual experiences with him and he loves to listen to all of these. Sometimes he gives me advices.
However, he is more than a male girl friend. We are physically intimate. He gives me advices on fashion, including lingerie, and he would see me changing clothes. We may sleep together, naked. Sometimes we shower together without doing anything. Sometimes, we hug, kiss, cuddle, and touch each other in a very intimate but less sexual way. We play each other’s body like it’s funny, or, like we are incestuous siblings playing. Sometimes if I am in mood I may make him cum by fingers or tongue, but it’s much more the case that he makes me cum with his fingers and tongue—especially when I need orgasms but don’t have a really masculine and dominant lover at the time. Sexually, I desire and prefer someone different from this dream boy (someone more aggressive and dominant), but I love my dream boy the most. Sometimes I try some new skill on him before I apply that to my lovers; sometimes I taught him some skills even though he is mostly with me. I try not to ask too much about him and other girls/women because I would be jealous. We even actually fucked a few times, but this is never a norm between us and we didn’t feel awkward after those accidents, experiments, or memorable/special moments in our lives. He is a gentleman and wouldn’t push me to have sex with him just because we did occasionally have sex once for quite a while.
Unfortunately I have to answer anonymously as I still do not have my own account and have to use my husband’s. So how do I feel about it?
不好意思，我還沒有自己的帳戶，得用老公的帳戶，所以我還是匿名吧。那麼我對綠帽婚姻感覺如何？
I was still dating another man when my husband and I met. I was terrified to tell him because I knew he was the guy I wanted to spend my life with. But, at the same time, I was still intimate with the first man while sleeping with the man who is now my husband. I put myself between a rock and a hard place.
Boyfriend #1 (the man I was dating when I met my husband) slept with me one Friday night at my place. He left early on Saturday morning and almost bumped into boyfriend #2 on his way out. Boyfriend #2 didn’t see him come out of my place. When the doorbell rang about one minute after boyfriend #1 left I went right downstairs, still naked, and opened the door thinking boyfriend #1 had forgotten something. Without thinking I opened the door and there was my now-husband standing there. It could not have been worse as I had only just had sex with #1. I felt wet running down between my legs and #2 saw it. His face went red and mine must have too. I told him to come in and started apologizing but he didn’t react the way I thought he was going to. Instead he started kissing me and the next thing I knew he was inside me. I had NEVER felt anything that intense before.
We talked for hours afterwards and he learned told me he had thought I was seeing someone else and would prefer I had been open and honest about. I told him I wanted to marry him but had a problem craving sex and told him I would stop seeing #1 immediately. He told me that the sex we had in the dining room was the hottest he had ever had and told me he had never gotten that excited before. We talked more and we decided that I would see #1 again at least once to see if what happened was just a one-off. It wasn’t.
Since then, more than 22 years ago, I have never been without a boyfriend. I married #2 a month after that and had two men on my wedding night. Boyfriend #1, followed by my husband.
My current boyfriend and I see each other at least twice a week and my husband is not allowed to have sex with me until after I get home from seeing my guy. I LOVE my life. I LOVE my husband. But I lust after my boyfriend.
That is just the worst thing i have heard from a woman in a long time. When you married and have sex outside of the marriage covenant with or without your husbands consent it is still adultery. Your husband is not the final authority in your marriage. you make vows of fidelity in marriage and you both make these vows of fidelity to the Lord and it does not matter if you were married in a church or not. marriage is a monogamous relationship and if you can’t be that there is no point in being married. back in the day this is what and how my parents generation described this situation because once in a great while we children as we got older noticed some marriages were like this but only a very few and my parents called it Living in sin. And we all know the fate of those who live this way.
