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[翻譯] 在綠帽婚姻中,妻子如何看待她的丈夫

在Google上搜索Cuckold Marriage,偶然發現一組Quora上的問答。問題是:

「How does a wife feel about her husband in a cuckold marriage?」

因為我想起來我的一個多年女網友,一個比我大幾歲的姐姐,是個十足的騷貨,給自己老公戴綠帽無數,老公雖然也有綠帽心理,但她在外面玩得太瘋,以至於多數事情不敢跟老公分享。我想起她有時候說,越來越看不起自己老公,她還提醒我,小心我老婆在外面有男人久了,心態也像她那樣變化。

所以我就對這個問題很好奇,點進去看了幾個回答,其實沒有看到像我那位網友姐姐那麼消極的。基本上都是對綠帽婚姻/生活方式的讚許,以及對老公的尊重和愛。有些提供了很有意思的視角,有些回答也挺讓人興奮的。於是就很想翻譯出來分享給院友。先試著翻譯一個回答,有時間我會繼續後面幾個。
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回答#1:

I am a cuckold husband not the cuckold’s wife, so my answer only comes from what my wife told me and is therefore only partial. But I am going to offer a quite special view (at least I think it’s quite special) about how a wife might feel about her cuckold husband.

我是個綠帽夫,而不是綠帽的妻子,因此我的回答僅來自妻子告訴我的內容,所以也許有點偏。但是我能提供關於妻子對綠帽夫的感覺比較特別的觀點(至少我認為這是非常特別的)。

More than once, my wife said that she always has a “dream boy” in her mind. It’s kinda like a wet daydream that has been with her since her early teenage. That is, she has kept fantasizing such a boy/man for almost 30 years. This is not exactly me. For example, my penis should be categorized as small not average. Also I am 5 years younger than her, a fact that she did not foresee when she started this daydream. But my wife thinks that I am, as a cuckold husband and as just who I am, indeed fulfilling this role in her dream and actually doing better because I do more (of course, real life is more complex than a fantasy land where there is no dishes, laundry, and bills). So that’s what SHE said (I summarized and organized):

我的妻子不止一次地說,她的腦海裡總是有一個“夢中男孩”。自從她十幾歲的少女時代以來,她就一直在做白日夢。也就是說,她一直幻想著這樣的男孩/男人近30年了。這個男孩的形象不完全是我。例如,我的陰莖應該算是小而不是平均,還有我比她小5歲,這是她開始做白日夢時沒有預見到的事實。但是我的妻子認為我作為一個綠帽丈夫,以及我的身份,確實在她的夢想中履行了這個角色,並且因為我做得更多而實際上做得更好(當然,現實生活比幻想世界複雜得多,幻想中沒有柴米油鹽和帳單)。以下就是她所說的(由我覆述總結):

This boy is definitely my best friend ever. I love him more than anyone. He has been growing up with me and now he is a grown man. We share a lot of common interests: academic areas, red wine, arts, classic music and jazz, figure skating, fashion, food from various cultures….We also explore some crazy things together, such as weed (well, crazy enough for our hometown in Asia) and men’s chastity. He knows all my secrets, even my dirtiest desires and experiences, but he would never judge me or tell my parents (when I was young). Sometimes he is like my “male girl friend” because I told him about every boy and every man that I am romantically or sexually interested in. I describe to him in details, like how I am turned on by a certain guy’s butt, chest, and how I imagine the guy’s oral skill and penis. I told my dream boy that I imagine the hot guy’s penis is big because I love it big, and the dream boy is excited with me even though his is just average. After my first kiss with a super hot guy, I can’t wait to tell my dream boy about it. I then share all my sexual experiences with him and he loves to listen to all of these. Sometimes he gives me advices.

這個男孩絕對是我最好的朋友。我愛他勝過任何人。他和我一起成長,現在已經成年。我們有很多共同的興趣愛好:學術領域,紅酒,藝術,古典音樂和爵士樂,花樣滑冰,時裝,來自各種文化的美食……。我們還一起探索一些瘋狂的事物,例如飛葉子(嗯,對於我們亞洲老家來說已經足夠瘋狂了)和男人的貞操(注:Chastity或指貞操鎖)。他知道我所有的秘密,甚至我最骯髒的慾望和經歷,但是他永遠也不會批判我或告訴我的父母(我小的時候)。有時他像我的“男閨蜜”,因為我會告訴他每個我想與之戀愛或者有性趣的男孩和男人。我會向他詳細介紹那些男人,例如某個男人的臀部,胸部打動了我,以及我怎樣想像那個男人的口活兒和陰莖。我告訴夢中男孩,我認為這個帥哥的陰莖很大,因為我喜歡粗大的那玩意,而夢中男孩也為此感到很興奮,即使他的那個只是平均水平。當與超級帥哥初吻後,我會迫不及待地想告訴我的夢中男孩。然後,我與他分享我所有的性經歷,他喜歡聽所有這些。有時他還給我出主意。

However, he is more than a male girl friend. We are physically intimate. He gives me advices on fashion, including lingerie, and he would see me changing clothes. We may sleep together, naked. Sometimes we shower together without doing anything. Sometimes, we hug, kiss, cuddle, and touch each other in a very intimate but less sexual way. We play each other’s body like it’s funny, or, like we are incestuous siblings playing. Sometimes if I am in mood I may make him cum by fingers or tongue, but it’s much more the case that he makes me cum with his fingers and tongue—especially when I need orgasms but don’t have a really masculine and dominant lover at the time. Sexually, I desire and prefer someone different from this dream boy (someone more aggressive and dominant), but I love my dream boy the most. Sometimes I try some new skill on him before I apply that to my lovers; sometimes I taught him some skills even though he is mostly with me. I try not to ask too much about him and other girls/women because I would be jealous. We even actually fucked a few times, but this is never a norm between us and we didn’t feel awkward after those accidents, experiments, or memorable/special moments in our lives. He is a gentleman and wouldn’t push me to have sex with him just because we did occasionally have sex once for quite a while.

但是,他不僅僅是一個男閨蜜。我們也有肌膚之親。他會給我關於時尚的建議,包括內衣,他還會看到我換衣服。我們可能赤身裸體地睡在一起。有時我們一起洗澡但不發生什麼。有時,我們以一種非常親密但沒那麼多性的方式擁抱,親吻,依偎和触摸彼此。我們互相玩弄對方的身體只是覺得好玩,或者像是亂倫的兄妹。心情好的時候,我也許會用手或舌頭讓他到,但更​​多時候是他用手和舌頭讓我到,尤其是我需要性高潮但缺少真正很有男性魅力的情人的時期。在性方面,我更喜歡一個與夢中男孩不同的人,一個更具侵略性和統治力的人,但我最愛我的夢中男孩。有時,我會在他身上試驗一些新技能,然後再將其用到我的情人們身上;有時我教他新技能,即使他大部分時間都在我身邊。我盡量不對他和其他女孩/女人的事過問太多,因為我會吃醋。我們實際上也會肏過幾次,但這絕不是我們之間的常態,在我們之間偶發的、試驗性的、或儀式性的做愛之後,我們也不會感到尷尬。他是一位紳士,不會因為我們很少做愛而要求和我更多的性愛。

[ 本帖最後由 ryan5i57 於 2021-1-20 15:10 編輯 ]
2021-1-21 06:06#1
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回答#2:

Unfortunately I have to answer anonymously as I still do not have my own account and have to use my husband’s. So how do I feel about it?

不好意思,我還沒有自己的帳戶,得用老公的帳戶,所以我還是匿名吧。那麼我對綠帽婚姻感覺如何?

I was still dating another man when my husband and I met. I was terrified to tell him because I knew he was the guy I wanted to spend my life with. But, at the same time, I was still intimate with the first man while sleeping with the man who is now my husband. I put myself between a rock and a hard place.

我遇到我老公時,我還在和另一個男人交往。我很害怕告訴他,因為我知道他是我想要與之共度一生的那個人。但這時,我在與現在成了我老公的男人睡覺的同時仍然保持著和第一個男朋友的親密關係。這讓我自己陷入了困境。

Boyfriend #1 (the man I was dating when I met my husband) slept with me one Friday night at my place. He left early on Saturday morning and almost bumped into boyfriend #2 on his way out. Boyfriend #2 didn’t see him come out of my place. When the doorbell rang about one minute after boyfriend #1 left I went right downstairs, still naked, and opened the door thinking boyfriend #1 had forgotten something. Without thinking I opened the door and there was my now-husband standing there. It could not have been worse as I had only just had sex with #1. I felt wet running down between my legs and #2 saw it. His face went red and mine must have too. I told him to come in and started apologizing but he didn’t react the way I thought he was going to. Instead he started kissing me and the next thing I knew he was inside me. I had NEVER felt anything that intense before.

一個週五晚上,1號男友(我遇見老公時與我約會的男人)在我家過夜,然後在週六早上離開,差點就撞到2號男友,但2號男朋友並沒有看到他從我家出來。1號男友離開後大概一分鐘,門鈴響了,我便走進樓下,還光著身子,打開門,我以為是1號男友忘記了什麼東西回來拿。所以我不假思索地就開了門,然後我後來的老公就站在那兒。情況簡直不能更糟了,因為1號走之前我剛和他做過。這時我還能感到屄裏流出的精液順著兩腿之間淌下,2號看到了!他的臉紅了,我覺得我也一定臉紅了。我讓他進來並開始道歉,但他沒有像我所預想的那樣做出反應。相反,他開始親吻我,接下來我只知道他進入了我的身體。我以前從未感到過這次性愛這樣強烈的感覺。

We talked for hours afterwards and he learned told me he had thought I was seeing someone else and would prefer I had been open and honest about. I told him I wanted to marry him but had a problem craving sex and told him I would stop seeing #1 immediately. He told me that the sex we had in the dining room was the hottest he had ever had and told me he had never gotten that excited before. We talked more and we decided that I would see #1 again at least once to see if what happened was just a one-off. It wasn’t.

之後我們聊了幾個小時,他告訴我,他已經察覺我在和別人交往,只是希望我可以保持開放和誠實。我告訴他我想嫁給他,但是在性愛方面遇到了麻煩,並表示我馬上就和1號斷絕來往。可他說,我們剛剛在飯廳的性愛是他有生以來最爽的一次,並告訴我他從來沒有感到如此興奮過。我們聊了很多,然後決定我可以至少再和1號約一次,看看是打算繼續下去還是僅此一次。結果是並不僅限於一次。

Since then, more than 22 years ago, I have never been without a boyfriend. I married #2 a month after that and had two men on my wedding night. Boyfriend #1, followed by my husband.

就這樣,從那時起,已經22年多,我就沒有過過沒有男朋友的日子。在那之後的一個月,我嫁給了2號,並在我的新婚之夜享受到兩個男人。1號男友先上,然後是我的老公。

My current boyfriend and I see each other at least twice a week and my husband is not allowed to have sex with me until after I get home from seeing my guy. I LOVE my life. I LOVE my husband. But I lust after my boyfriend.

我現在的男友和我每周至少見兩次面,並且我老公不被允許在我跟男友約會之前做愛,必須在我和男友約會做完回家之後才能和我做愛。我熱愛我的生活!我愛我的老公!但是我的慾望渴求著我的男友。

[ 本帖最後由 ryan5i57 於 2021-1-20 21:54 編輯 ]
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回答2下面有兩條評論,其中一條是一個負面評論。我也想貼在這裡,看看美國的道德衛道士是怎樣一副腔調,也蠻有意思的:

That is just the worst thing i have heard from a woman in a long time. When you married and have sex outside of the marriage covenant with or without your husbands consent it is still adultery. Your husband is not the final authority in your marriage. you make vows of fidelity in marriage and you both make these vows of fidelity to the Lord and it does not matter if you were married in a church or not. marriage is a monogamous relationship and if you can’t be that there is no point in being married. back in the day this is what and how my parents generation described this situation because once in a great while we children as we got older noticed some marriages were like this but only a very few and my parents called it Living in sin. And we all know the fate of those who live this way.

這是我很長時間以來從一個女人那裡聽到的最糟糕的事情。當您結婚並且在婚姻契約之外進行性行為,無論您是否徵得了您的丈夫的同意,這仍然是通姦。您的丈夫不是您婚姻中的最終權威。你們發誓對婚姻忠貞,你們都向主發誓忠貞,無論您是否在教堂結婚,都沒有關係。婚姻是一夫一妻制的關係,如果不能保證,那乾脆就不要結婚。在過去,這種情況就是我父母那一代人(注:個人猜測,此人父母年輕時應該是50-60年代美國性解放嬉皮士盛行的時代)描述的那種事情,因為在很長一段時間內,我們逐漸長大的時候,我們這些孩子都注意到了有些婚姻是這樣的,但那也只有極少數。父母稱之為“同居的罪孽”。 我們都知道以這種方式生活的人的命運。
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